Whatever Deuteronomy 22:5 is referring to is important. And yes, those women who wear what that passage is forbidding are doing wrong - the men who also disobey that verse are also doing wrong. God says they are an abomination to Him - that certainly makes it more important than personal preferences, don't you think? Unless you think it does not matter when people personally choose to be an abomination through their conduct and apparel.