I have to keep that in mind. I'm in the Army and I work with people from all kinds of different walks of life, and I heard from another pastor in TX, that one thing to do to win more people is to be friendlier. One thing that characterized the life of Jesus in dealing with sinners is that he was friendly. He had a reputation of being friends with publicans and sinners. He had that reputation because he spent time with them and was friendly to them. Another thing he pointed out is that Paul was gentle with the Thessalonians, and they were dear to him, and he imparted his very soul to them ( 1 Thess.2:7-8) and he loved them more with time ( 2 Cor 12:15). The Bible doesn't have to be used as a weapon, which it is a hammer (Jer 23:29) and a sword (Heb 4:12) It is also honey(Ps 19:10) , bread(Matt 4:4) , apples(Prov 25:11),milk(1 Pet 2:2) and meat(Heb 5: 12-14).